Since he lost his job last May. Incidentally, he is on his third day of work and so far so good. He seems to be coming out of the fog, finally.
Quote: He cant stop you. and you will get treated like a woman despite that when you require it, (not demand) and he is capable of giving it.
That's just not true, though. Unless I am happy and cheerful, he doesn't have much to do with me on an intimate level. Everything's superficial. I do not make demands or requests for him to treat me like a woman. The most I did was to say, after 2 weeks of being ignored "I feel like an 'it' when I'm around you these days". In the meantime I was my usual self, just less animated...more quiet (I'm already a quiet person believe it or not) and withdrawn but not morose or anything.
Quote: He may ask for proppage, but does he expect it?
Oh gosh no. H has Chrome-type self esteem. If I ever did not give him his props, he'd say "Oh I deserve it...I *do* suck at my job and deserved to get terminated and you poor thing you are stuck with me and...and..." and so on.
I don't want to give the impression that I just prop him up constantly--I don't. But when the opportunity presents itself, I have made a commitment that whatever comes out of my mouth will be positive and not neutral or negative. It's just getting hard for me to hold up my promise to mySELF because the shnit is hitting the fan in other areas of my life and just where is H, anyway? And then even when I specifically ask, in a nice way, for what I want he still goofs off for the next week, wrapped up in his own mind, and I have to say it AGAIN.
Quote: acting like a girl allready. good job.
You know, we WOA people must grate on people's nerves. Cause we not only need attention (like all folks) but we have to receive it verbally. Oooh how tacky. To have to be told, out loud, how fabulous you are. My killer outfit got no comments from H whatsoever, but he did give me an H-style compliment, so I took it gratefully.
Annnnnnnnnnnnnd, there were some awesome positives in my life last night, but true to form, I will not post about them, only the bad stuff. LOL Well, okay you talked me into it.
H is sleeping! He stopped going to Mass in the mornings and goes in much later at his new job. The end result is that he's getting about 2.5 more hrs of sleep, thank goodness. The change in him is dramatic, already. We are going tonight to buy a new weight set for him so we can start working out together in the mornings, before the kids get up. These things are HUGE.
Thanks for weighing in, all, and Stig I'm sorry I ruined pooh for ya. That's what we perverted females do to men.
