He asks or hints for verbal affirmation and I always give it
How long has this been going on? 3 years? as long as you have been here? the whole R?
Cause I've been propping him up for a while now and yet the FIRST time that I need a little proppage, he retreats. Oooh she's gross. She's not being cheerful and happy and alive and sexy. She's not dressing like herself...uh, I think I'll just offer to take care of the kids and leave her alone. Kwim?
Hmmm, and no. he most likely is not thinking that. Mind reader. So he is retreating to his cave when you stop the proppage, (and I dont see why you shouldnt, in this instance. this is your lack of well being and over confidance/overextending yourself. you have to hold something for yourself. which H is very good at. He asks for what he wants and only gives out what he can.) and letting you do the same--offering a token of what he would want by taking the kids. Thats what I see, but you are there.
When do I get to relax and schlumpify and still be treated like a woman and not an it?
You get to relax and schlum whenever you need to. He cant stop you. and you will get treated like a woman despite that when you require it, (not demand) and he is capable of giving it. Currently you have crashing insecurities. again. Gel gave you a hint.
Quote: I also know you don't want to have to tell him "Hey ya big dummy! I need your support too ya know!"
It grates that inner self-confidant voice eh?
He may ask for proppage, but does he expect it?
Maybe-- because you have given it for so long now.
he is the first to admit that he does not deal well when I'm not my usual cheery self
Tough for him. See where I am going with this?
youve learned and understand WOA, his needs etc.
But balance is neccesary.
I have to say that I've inspired probably thousands in my short life..........
LOL. Really...
I'm dressed to kill today and I guess I will start acting like a girl again. Hmph
the hmph says it all. acting like a girl allready. good job.
IHJ
Thats not right. IN Fact, Its just wrong on so many levels. I will never be the same now because of it. How will I explain to the poor girl, why I am laughing hysterically? Its bound to cause some terrible misunderstanding and insecurity. Curse you.
How will I explain to the poor girl, why I am laughing hysterically? Its bound to cause some terrible misunderstanding and insecurity. Curse you. 