Lass, Yes I do that also. It's not always the blatant ego boostage.
It just offended me that lately, when I'm the one in need of some boostage, he is STILL coming to me with his near-daily insecurities. And like I said to Blackie...I understand perfectly that he is going through some major trauma and wondering if he 'has what it takes' for this new job and as the sole provider for our family, so I want to be there for him.
Again, most of this is just venting. I haven't said any of this to him and it's not necessary that I do. I'm just needing him to step outside himself for a while and give something back. He seems to have problems doing this. I'm guessing it's a Mars/Venus type thing..he just doesn't know what to do so he does nothing. And even when I give specific instructions on how he can best support me, he still does what is easiest for him. That whole counterintuitive thing is a toughie for him, I think.
Ah well, I'm starting to come out of my funk a bit (dad doing slightly better) and so I'm sure things will look up.
