I'll give you a Fer Example. He got fired last year and it was devastating to him.
So he may say something like "What if I get fired again?" or "I still get wracked with anxiety when my boss calls me in to his office, even at a new job.."
To which I respond as any good wife would, by helping him through the insecurity..propping him up, so to speak. Pointing out that what happened had nothing to do with his job performance, it was a buyout, etc etc. He's just been beaten down and this is my way of helping him recover. He's not been like this at all throughout our married life--I don't want to give the impression that he's a weak guy. He'd be mortified if people found out how he's reacted to this. It is a temporary time in our lives where he needs emotional support. It happens in all marriages and I know that. As selfish as it sounds, I'm just ready to move on from it. Or, at least, I want the same level of support and validation from him. I can't continue to dish it out and get "space" in return.
In his defense, I know I am a hard case to crack. I tend to get quiet and withdrawn when upset and he doesn't know what to do.
