HP.

I keep seeing comments like I always prop him up...
What do you see/view as propping him up?

Normally I have more empathy for him but I'm flat out worn out and worried about other things....and yet, he just keeps at me with the bids for proppage.

Have you adressed the fact that you need some emotional support from him right now. Not just the physical but emotional. You know recognition from him that you are going through his job change and your dad and your sister and weaning of baby pot and need some tlc.

uh, I think I'll just offer to take care of the kids and leave her alone.

Now see here is what I find interesting. I would die to have a H that would offer me space time and a chance to breath if dealing with all you are dealing with. I have a H that would offer me sex instead. Suffercate me with his neediness and insecurity if my need of a little space to deal with it all caused me to pull back a little. And build my wall of resentment towards him a little higher for not allowing me the space to deal with my own emotions for a short period of time.
Wonder what the dynamic looks like from your H's side.
As sometimes I wonder what it looks like from my H's side.

I'm feeling down and out, I'm supposed to continue to act like a woman?

HP I am sure your H has seen you at your worse. And he still loves you wants you and so forth. I think and I could be really off base here. That your lack of feeling womanly right now is not even tied into your H. And it is something your H will never be able to relate to.
You just weaned your baby. Now I am going back 10 years but when I weaned Austin I had a sense of less worth.
Breastfeeding is tied into our womanhood. That emotional bond caused by breastfeeding and all those emotions are right now out there swirling around and being unmet. And there is a huge sense of unexplaned loss.
I do not plan to have any more kids but wont have a hysterectomy for this same reason it effects your womanhood atleast in your mind. Sounds stupid but ?
Just my thoughts on this.

IHJ omg you are to funny!
So glad things are going so well for you!