weaned a baby, Dad, sis. holy mackeral

YOU are in need of some serious hen clucking. Lots and lots of it. Gather the girls its time to chatter.

Your H is emotionally wiped right now. His whole everything depends on his success with his job. Its something he has wanted for 10 YEARS.. OMG! Can you say performance anxiety?
So off he goes to his cave. He wants to follow thru on his words, in fact he will, when everything else gets back in order. That may not be your time frame. Tough bananas. Its good for you.

I'm worn out being his cheerleader.
So stop... Um duh.

He doesnt need you to be his cheerleader.(though its nice) He doesnt need you to to prop him up. He just needs space. HE knows things are going to get better. Do you? Why not?

So if he is being unsure and insecure, do yourself a favor and let it drop your drive. Let go of the R, its not going anywhere.So you think that my two strikes and yer out position is unfair, eh I understand the position and tactic. In a marriage it is ridiculous. How long is this R? 10 years? 15? 20? Remember? those pesky vows? you think you havent had two strikes? HAHAHAH. HAHAHAH. Whatever.

Take care of you. When he gets his head out of his.... um mind, he will come hunting for you and reward you even more for sticking by him while he was 'gross' --and he knows that he is --in his own mind.
remember last time?
an unlovable person will not let you love them.

I told him that lately I do not feel like a woman around him. I feel like an IT.

I have an idea,
Tell him he is a dork he could be curing all that frustration and stress in your loving arms. then wiggle your ass at him.
Confidant funny provoking stimulating. not with expectation, but just because its funny and currently he is a dork.
The counselorize-- as Karen puts it-- sucks SOOOOO much sometimes. act like a woman and you will feel like one.

Oh, dont say your H isnt strong, That is a bunch of BS. and I am not gonna spell out the whys and hows either.

Last edited by blackfoot; 01/31/06 12:15 AM.