I can understand why you would feel rejected. One thing I want to warn you of is this...don't baby her. Don't tiptoe around her on this issue....by doing so you run the risk of not communicating to her the way you need to.....and appearing to look weak to her. You don't want to look weak to her, trust me....it's not attractive to women.
I know you say allusion and entendre seem to work best on her....but you run the risk, yet again of not communicating clearly and being taken seriously. You don't have to use the "shock and awe" technique to communicate to her. Sit her down, tell her "we need to talk" and then calmly tell her what you need to tell her...no yelling, no screaming, no fits of anger. Tell her how this makes you feel, I would also address why you've let it go on like this for soooo very long....because she is likely to wonder why in the world you suddenly have an issue with things. If this has been an issue for YEARS you need to tell her so, and take accountability for not addressing it for YEARS too.
I wouldn't apologize for pouting, I would tell her why you were pouting, but I wouldn't apologize for it. You have a right to have hurt feelings, she needs to know why your feelings were hurt and how she did that.
Right now you need to communicate clearly (have I said that often enough in this post yet?)....avoid inuendo, avoid entendre....speak from the heart, speak clearly....she will take you more seriously.
