Sorry my last post wasn't clear. No massage took place. Her answer was NO. We did not continue the conversation. As my offer of massage was the first overture either of us has made in eighteen years I felt rejected and my feelings got hurt so I retreated to the bedroom, turned on the TV and pouted like a 10 year old until I fell asleep. I should have been prepared for her negative reaction.
Don't get the idea I've given up yet but I'm trying to figure out the best words to use to next approach her. She is just not the type of person that would respond favorably to 'schock & awe' type conversation. Allusion and entendre seem to work better on her. She will have to be nurtured along slowly if there is going to be any chance of success.
My plan as of now is to apologize to her for pouting. At least that way she will know I'm going through an emotional thing. I'm pretty sure my attempts to become intimate with my wife is going to take some time to play out one way or another.
