The only thing that will help your situation is open and honest dialog with your W, which is long overdue. You'll need to get over your fear of confrontation, there's going to be lots of that. Lurk on here for a while, you'll learn a lot. Obtain and read a number of the books mentioned here, if you haven't already. Books like "The Sex-Starved Marriage" by our forum host, as well as "Passionate Marriage" by David Scharch. Again, if you lurk here a while, you'll see you have a LOT of hard work ahead of you - many of us have been working on these issues for years already. Don't get discouraged too easily, because a problem 18 (or more) years in the making isn't going to be solved in a few months. Don't set any time limits in your head. Good luck!
