Okay, yes, I tend to have intiated things; but here is the deal. As far as swimming, last week, we weren't sure what her schedule was this week. So, on Saturday she told me that Tuesday and Thursday were still good to swim this week. Also, she still wants to play racquetball; but for the next 2 weeks, we are busy with bringing our son to some appointments, so that is on hold right now.
Two other examples are that, on Thursday, I asked her if she would like to meet for lunch on Friday. SHe told me she wasn't sure if her sister might just drop by or not. At forst seemed like she was looking for an excuse. Then I let it go and she called me and said "I have some time to grab lunch before I go to work". THen I was out Friday night and she was working. I had dropped off my stepson to the house and her parents. WHile there, my other 2 sons asked me to play whiffleball with them. SO, I did for a bit. My daughter was not feeling well and inside. On Saturday, the 2 youngest boys had games and I knew what time they were; because she told me. Well, like I said it was 11:45pm on Friday and I get this text message telling me when their games are and that my daughter wasn't feeling well, so she wasn't sure what my daughter would be doing. THen she ends the message with okay? Not sure why she needed to text me; but she did. I already knew all this and she knew that too???
SO, I guess what I am trying to say is that, yes, I had originally intiated alot of this stuff; but I have also given her an out in that I said if you don't want to do the swimming, then let me know. She still does it. Sure, she could be waiting for something better to come along; but I am not sitting still either. I go out on dates, went to a luau on Saturday night, etc.
You say that she may just want to be friends and thinks I do too. I don't see that. I can't see where she doesn't know that I want more than friendship. And alot of people I talk to tell me, as I would, that they wouldn't do things with that other person unless they wanted to. MAybe she is different; but I didn't think so.
I don't call her at all. She and I just meet up and if while we are meeting, we talk and plan something then we do that.
So, yes, you are right in the initiation part; but she doesn't have to go etither. Right now, I am willingto do this stuff to be around her sometimes and see how we interact and whether I want to continue and to let her see that I am not what she remembers.
She has freedom and on Friday had the choice to meet up with her sisters and such; but chose to meet me. WHere all this leads, is unclear; but for now I don't want to back off. Maybe in a little more time I will; but for now I want the interaction. She does have free time without me there.
One last thing. I am not goingto ask right now where she stands on things; because I am not so sure she knows. I think she is still getting it together and also would have to deal with her family if she ever wants to work on it. So, right now, I don't think she is there yet.
