Yes, Just, I did go swimming with the X today as we had planned and for now she plans to continue too; but I behaved and such!!!
Well, next week is vacation week with the kids and so I told her I would like to take them overnight one night and she seemed okay with that. We also talked about droppingthe wage garnishment; because she was getting her money on time more when I paid her directly. So, she has to file paperwork and we have to go to court to deal with that...no biggee...(She is going through some financial pain and as much as I hate that, it is good for her to feel some pain in that regards. that way she knows what it is like. She will not take money from me to hold her over and then reimburse me. I think this has to do with pride.) Also, she is already aggravated at work; because they are tryingto put her on more hours than she told them she coulddo. That's typical. Anyway, she says to me, that if they push it she will find another waitressing job. Hmm, nice to not have to worry about a sustaining income. See that is what she doesn't get. I still am her main source of income. SO, I couldn't just say "Oh, I hate this job, I quit" That is the part she is missing in all of this and a major part of why we had issues. For her the job is just a little money on the side and a way to get out. For me, it has always been about supporting a family. Big difference.
Two other things came up...One was that I still need to get all the kids together for a family portrait with me. I haven't had one since we split. The last 2 years she has done them with her and the kids. I want one with me and the kids too. That seems fine. The second thing that came up was the dinner I had told her I would cook her a few weeks back. She still seems interested, so we will try and find some free time between her work and such.
Oh yeah, in the GAL department, I went to this place near my work and they have cooking classes, which is something I might try and do. Unfortunately, each 3 hr class costs $98. So, I can only do once in awhile; but I would like to take them. And no, not to meet women; but you never know!!! The other thing is that I have a date on Saturday night. It will be good to get out with someone else and the fact that they are of the opposite sex doesn't hurt either.
Anyway, I haven't totally given up on her and I; but I do think she needs to come to me as you said.
I know I will have some more down times; but right now, the week looks okay...We'll see...
