She vented to you, just as you are doing here. Understand, validate, and sympathize. Don't offer solutions. Get out of the "Mr. Fix-it" routine.
I'm amazed at the system in your state. In mine, you are pretty much obligated to pay through the state disbursement unit. No direct payments. They want to know that you are paying. I personally feel that I wouldn't try to change to direct payments. That way she can't claim someday that you didn't pay her.
Quote: So, NY and Just, do we now say it is over or is there still some hope. Is this normal in the process for people who eventually fixed things or is this too far gone???
Yes, we say it is over and we proceed as though it is. What's your life look like without your wife Frank? Can you learn to love it without her?
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
