No repitition from me this time. Go back and re-read everything NYSurvivor wrote and try to apply it. I can just see you trying so hard with your ex-W. Everything and anything is an oversight or a slight.
Frank, nothing is necessarily as it seems. My XW was literally pleased when she felt I had moved on. "Now he won't be bugging me." She wanted me out of her hair. She was excited with the thought of tying up the last of the loose threads by getting her stuff out of the house and getting her name off the house. She was anxious to move away. Knowing that hurts, but it makes me realize that I shouldn't have pushed as much as I did and makes me realize that you are pushing too hard. Get away from her for awhile. I mean it. Spend time doing your own thing.
I'm only certain of one thing...mentally you aren't yet where you need to be. I know you're doing things, but you are also spending inordinate amounts of time concerned whether you match up to OM, when and if you are ever going to be together, and why can't she see your changes. It's all about her. I honestly do not think you will be successful this way. You know how your always asking when you should quit and "move on"? As NYSurvivor pointed out...the answer is now. Let go. Accept it is over and proceed with your life accordingly. The door can still be open, but you need to assume she isn't coming through it. Doesn't matter what the reasons are. You be the best guy you can be and if she won't come back or chooses to be with some other guy, why would you want her anyway.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
