I agree with what you post here and that is the hard thing.
Yes, I did say the wrong thing and I had said that I was sorry for that; but it seems that she associates it with the past and I want to let go of the past and concentrate on the here and now. I have changed alot and that doesn't mean I or she won't have slipbacks; but I am a better person today than I was a few years ago. Back then I wasn't a bad person; but I felt unsupported like she did and so that caused friction between us. Whne she got mad this time, I just stated that this isn't how I want to go and I don't want to argue with her. I want to get along like we have been.
On the second point of not unleashing. I agree and that is not what I want to do. I want to as you say step back and let myself calm down from the hurt and go back with the same positive attitude that I have been working on. Sure it hurts that someone I loved is shooting back at me hurtfully; but I want to let it go and move on to showing that I will not let that destroy me or anyone I am with.l I want to let it go; because there will always be issues that cause friction between 2 people. That doesn't mean give up or stop caring, as she believes. Right now shhe sees things as black and white, good or bad. I see things as that you love; but there will always be little conflicts that in the end aren't worth it.
On your last point. I agree totally. I am trying not to stamp out that last glowing ash. I truly would love for this to turn around and for us to work it out.
Well, I guess the big test comes tonight, when I get my stepson to workout and then install the cable lines she asked me about doing a little while ago. I will take him to the gym and then go about my business of installing the lines and then leaving. I am trying to backoff a bit; but still want to be there if I can.
