Well, let's see...I had my kids give my X The flowers and candy (She said you didn't need to do that. I told her I did it for the kids and because I wanted to.)...We each gave her a card. Mine was very generic...Inside a friend suggested that I write something light. So, I wrote:
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Like Forrest Gump says:
Life is like a box of chocolates...you never know what you gonna get.
Here's to sharing that box of chocolates with you.
Love,
Frank
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I think I kind of made her feel bad that I did that for her. She said again you didn't needto do that. I believe she said I don't know what to say. I said say thanks and she did.
Well, I took the kids like I do every other Thursday and when I got back I had stuff to give them and my stepson. I then said I hope you guys ahd a good Valentines day. they said yes. (BTW when my 6yr old was with me, he talked about family and that I wasn't part of his family...I asked why...In his little mind he said because I don't live with them )
Anyway, before I left Iasked my X a few things. One was about my daughter and what she might like for her birthday; because she always says "I don't know"...My X said she got the same responses. So, we came up with one thing and I will figure it out. Then came the second one and it almost caused and argument; but I think it got partially diffused; because when I said goodbye, she said thanks again.
What was asked by me was about some clothes that I had in storage from our house and what I should do with them. She told me to donate them. I said that there were a few things I thought my stepson could use. Then I asked about the shoes that were 10-1/2 size. She said I don't know whose those are unless they were his OM
Well, I guess I rolled my eyes; because i am hurt by that. She gave me this look and I said that isn't fair. I said his feet aren't that big. She said that she knew he ws a 10-1/2. So, unfortunately, I shot back with: So, what other sizes do you know about him that you have measured. (Stupid me) She came back with: I know the size of everything!!! Man that hurt and maybe I deserved it; but it still hurt. Anyway, I we diffused it and as I left I said I hope you had a good Valentines day and she said yes, thanks.
Well, I called my friend who I hadn't been able to talk to in months; becaus of a jealous boyfriend who is not in the picture anymore. I kind of vented to her and told her how I missed us being able to get together; because it made dealing with the X easier; because I had other thingsto do and that put me in a better frame of mind when I wasw her.
Well, I am trying to detach; because I have no idea if there ever will be a reconciliation; but I feel like a drug addict who is detoxing. I don't want to give up; but I may have to.
Frank
One more thing...she told me they want to put her on Saturday night for work when I hve the kids. She told me that when she went in a few people gave these big hellos like they had known her for years. I knew before she told me that they were all guys They were hitting on the fresh meat. I probably will never get her back; because I am not a competitor and they will keep hounding her.
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