I actually do want to see her succeed. I am happy for her; but I would have been more happy if it was in the context of our marriage. I absolutely don't want to be her fallback plan and I have thought about that. I do believe that the only way to get her to consider an US is for her to succeed and feel like she is accomplishing things...I want her to be part of the solution and contributing in our relationship. I guess I just have that fear of how things seem to be better between us and she is open to things; but that she may feel she can survive without anyone. But I think that her doing this is good...I wish she had the ability to take the other 2 jobs that my buddy had. She seemed interested and careerwise it was better; but she knew that this next 6months she couldn't take it. I do detach; but she keeps coming around. I am trying to just keep living life; but I still want her there sometimes.
Like I said. I support her and told her that I am happy for her and that as far as the kids and her working, that I can try and help her if she needs it...just let me know. However, I am not going to be there all the time so she can do whatever.
I just would love for her to break from her parents bond. I understand that she moved next to them so that they could help her out; but they have become more of a hinderance to her than help.
I am just happy for the times she and I do get....I'ts nice to have that and I hope it continues.
Frank
P.S. I still continue to go out and do stuff and even went for drinks with this woman. I had a good time; but not sure if it was anything I want to pursue.
