Quote: I guess my fear of her starting that new job is that initially, everything seems new and exciting and that those people may have more contact with her than I do and that works against me.
That is all potentially true. On the other hand, it may build her self-esteem and feelings of self-worth. Perhaps she wouldn't rely so much on her parents then. From reading this I get the sense you would prefer if she didn't manage on her own or "get a life" so that she would see you as a viable alternative to a less-than fulfilling life. She needs this chance to grow and maybe she will see you as someone to share a more complete life with. It's better to have her back if she's done self-work than because she "needed" you (aka you were her fallback plan).
Frank, the focus is still too much on her. A little more detachment would be nice.
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In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
