Quote: In reality, what chance is there for an "US" Probably none
That could well be. Go under the assumption that there is no future with her. What are you going to do with your life if that's the case? This is the hand you were dealt. I don't think the answer is "find someone else" because you aren't in a good place. When you can say..."I can take or leave a relationship with my XW and I don't need her to be happy" then you are in the place you need to be in order to weather this storm. I also feel you have no chance with your XW until you're at that place because you will appear too needy to her. Just look how you perceverated on the tickets. You had so many expectations about how pleased she would be that her not acknowledging it is a huge letdown.
I know you had this vision of the perfect life and marriage, but it's gone. No matter what happens, things will never be the same. You will need to focus on making a better future.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
