I have been separated since July 2004 and divorced since July 2005
As far as the affair, she insists that it happened in May 2005 after we were headed she had filed for divorce in Spet 2004. I want to believe her on that; but I do think the guy had been working his way in since the separation. He's a player and recently she jus figured that out. Unfortunately, she can't understand why that hurt me so much.
It may be too soon for you. The reson I did it was because she had started to open up to me and it was a last ditch effort to see if she might open up more without the fear of judgement. The hope was that she would see that I am a forgiving and understanding person. Did it work??? I'd like to think so; but only time will tell. By that, I mean that I think she sees that I am not the guy she wants to portray me as. But, for there to be an "US", she needs to want to come back and that is the sticking point with us now. I don't know if it is guilt, pride, stubborness or that maybe she never really loved me and is afraid to say that??? Like I said time will tell; but waiting this out is killing me....lol
