Thanks. I just need the support that I get here to get me grounded and to sometimes make me feel better.
Well, I was on my way to work and my cell phone rang. IT was my X...(fearing the worst I said "Hi, what's up?" She told me she was calling to see if the State had taken out my support money; because she has not seen some in 2 weeks...(Man the state sure can make a mess of things if 2 people can't talk to each other. Thank god we can!!!) Well, I told her yes, they did and she asked me if I knew when and such. So, that when she calls them, she can have all the info necessary. All in all the call went well and I told her that I can front her the money if the state takes too long. She said no, I will manage. (obviously her trying to be independent)...She even made a comment on how she had to get a late fee for a bill because she was short on cash. I said don't hurt your credit rating. (We had worked so hard to get it back during our marriage; because she had had to file for bankruptcy before I ran back into her) She said well the kids have food and whatever I need to take a hit on right now is the way it is. I said please if the money does not come in soon, then let me know and I can advance you till it gets there. I also said that right now I have some cash there. If I didn't I wouldn't be able to offer you it.
Well, that conversation finished and I said do you have a minute? She said yes. I told her that I stood behind that immunity card that I gave her a week ago. SHe said well you didn't seem to want to last night. I told her that it seemed like we both had a bad day and that I didn't wnat us to have had that conversation last night. So, I said please if there is anything you ever want to or need to talk about, I am still there for you. She said okay. So, I hope I smooted that over. Then I told her that I was talking to my friend who is almost the CFO at a company. He asked me is my X might be interested in a customer service job and that he could use her as a reference. When I passed it by her, she seemed interested and I told her that as parents, we could work something out so that she could do this if offered the job. She then did the same I can take care of it, as far as the kids, and I just let it go. (Yeah for me) Most I said was that if it madethe difference between her getting a job and not, that I would drive to take the kids to school in the morning and that when I moved closer, that it would be easier too. I also, said that if you were to ask my friends, they know I have no intention of staying in the apartment I am in now. I am just waiting for the right thing here in town and that the reason I took this apartment is because it is month to month and can move uickly when something does come along.
I was pretty much ready to hang up and her sister came into her house. So, I said remember, that we will find a way to make things work for the kids and if you need anything don't hesitate to call. Then I said I will tlak to you later when I come to get the kids. She said okay and I said bye.
Hey, not any progress; but maybe I saved some animosity by my behavior and actions on that phone call. WHich I think could have gone alot worse. Must have confused her to have me upbeat after our convo last night.
Just, thanks again for keeping me grounded. Not sure if in the end it will bear fruits with her; but at least I feel I did the right thing!!!
