Mistake #1: You listened to everything she said and believed it. Unless she's ready to reconcile she isn't going to tell you "yes, I'd like to work it out with you", that just isn't the way it works. For a year I heard how my XW and I have "been there, done that", but that was just to keep me at arms length.
Mistake #2: Invalidating her feelings. Let her own them without trying to talk her out of them.
She said she wanted you closer and you refuse to believe that it might not have anything to do with you. She really might want more time without the kids rather than want you around. The issue isn't clouded. Back off and stay backed off until she indicates otherwise. Be friendly and be a little aloof.
Quote: That is hard for me; because it means letting her go and possibly losing her to someone else, as I won't be there to show myself to her!!! Then again she may see it isn't greener and wonder what I am doing in my spare time...
Frank, you never had any decision in whether she was let go. Whether you give her space or crowd her, she is going to do what she is going to do. She will either date other guys or she won't. Your chasing after her and always being around will only serve to annoy her. In my opinion, women don't find that very attractive. Keep her guessing as to what you are doing.
Quote: Help!!! I just want to feel better.
Can't help you there.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
