Actually, Just_Me, I guess I am a different breed. I never was one to want alot of male friends. The 2 that I am very close to have been around forever and they are here during all this stuff, which is great; but I don't miss all that going out with the guys stuff that you talk about. Sure it is nice to get together once in awhile and my X encouraged it. I just never wanted to. I was content to be home with my family. What I really missed was that my X and I didn't get to gout as often. I do know that she would have liked to go out more with some friends and that I was jealous of that; because we weren't able to go out aoften ourselves together. I figured that was the whole point of being married. That we would want to get out together or with another couple, more so than with our own friends. SUre that is important too; but for me, I have been there done that and now at this stage of my life to want to go back to that is not my idea of fun. Most guys act jerky. For instance, I met up with my cousing who is divorced and actually had cheated on his wife. I went for something to do on Saturday night; but after getting there and watching him, I remembered exactly why I didn't like to go out with the "guys". ALso, after observing women I know that are married, who go for a "Girls night out", I find it pretty sad that they are out there flirting with guys and some even act on their impulses. I always believed that you shouldn't put yourself in those situations. Apparently, my X feels like she has missed out on something???
Plus, being able to do what I want when I want? I have done that for the past year and it is getting old!!! I want to enjoy things with someone again.
