She's gone

[RBinBR]

LPD, you definitely need some space and time to think and relax. Maybe take a weekend in Vegas or something.

You certainly have the right to a D if you want one, but I would encourage you to wait a little while. Really, what's the big rush? Signing the paperwork won't end the pain.

You are right that she is a different person right now from the woman you married. That's what an A does do someone -- she has become an addict and everything in her life has to feed that addiction. I think all the phone calls to you are because she still loves you to a great extent. That's probably why she wants to come over and go through the stuff herself. I'm not saying that you should or shouldn't do anything specific (because it's your life, not mine), but I do think you should take a step back and take your time before making decisions that will have a big impact on the rest of your life. Good luck.