OK, FWIW, if you don't want it, don't file. Let her file. I didn't want my D, and so I made sure my XH was the one to file...I didn't fight it, but I told him "I don't agree, this is not the right choice, so if you want this, you need to be the one to do it."
I guess I'm a firm believer in giving things time to play out. And if, in the meantime, you can limit the negative contacts you have and appear attractive in her eyes, that is even better.
