I am filing for divorce...not because I want it, but because she wants it. This is so confusing to me. This situation is so different to me. This is killing me, and I just want her back. However, if she doesn't want to come back. I must respect her decision.
Well, to follow up on what nicola said, if you are following DB princepals, then you know that what she says and does do not mean anything in terms of what you do and say. If she wants to file, then let her. If you do it, then you are letting her off easy. I said roughly the same thing to my W today (sorry all, forgot that little one...). I told her it was up to HER to move out or file after she suggested I had decisions to make. These problems took two to make, but they also take two to solve, whether that be reconciliation or divorce. If she has the resolve to file, then let her, otherwise, you do nothing to help her end her insanity. Chances are that she is pusing YOU to do it, overtly or subtely, because she is unsure. Fact is you cannot KNOW for certain what she's thinking but all things considered, you most certainly DO NOT have to honor her wishes.
