dear friend, i am so sorry for what you are going through. one thing is for sure about these WASs women, when they find someone else, they dont think, and just leave everything. it is like they have this robot mentality. i think they crash eventually, but it will take time. on the up side, since it is your 2nd M, youve been through this already. it is devastating, and the LBS needs balls of steel to move on. my advice, dont waste time, move on, i know its hard, there is also space for reconciliation, but focus on your life. erase her from your mind. easier said than done. i send you a fraternal spiritual hug.
