I have been married for 2.5 years. 3 weeks ago, my wife told me that she was not happy nad wanted a divorce. She started naming all kinds of little reasons about why she was leaving, but they were all small things that could be fixed. I took her to see a counselor the day after she told me all of this. The counselor told us to take a few days apart and gain some perspective on the situation. We did, and returned to the counselor the next week. At that point, my wife told me that she was positive that she wanted the divorce and wanted it quickly. I gave her a million and one good reasons why we should reconcile, but she would not hear it. My wife is from Colombia South America, and her parents had been up visiting us for the past 3 months. They had no idea why she was doing this, and told me to be patient. They told me that she was probably just going through a tough time with her new job.
My wife was very cold and distant towards me and her own family. Her story changed almost daily on why she wanted to leave. I wasn't buying it. I knew there had to be something more than what she was saying.
We have cell phones, but they were provided to us through the company my family owns. Therefore, my family has legal access to the records. They were suspicious, and took a peek. I found a number that was called very frequently for at least the past month. I hired a P.I. to get the info for the owner. It came back to a man in the next town over from where we live. That town is also where my wife works.
With the name and information on the guy, I asked friends at work if they knew anyone who worked where he did (she had also called the guy's work number, so it wasn't hard to figure out where he worked). I found someone who did, and found out even more info on the guy.
My wife and I went to the counselor the next day, after we dropped her parents off at the airport, and I confronted her about the guy. She finally admitted to having an emotional affair with the guy over the past 2 months. On the ride home, she admitted that the affair had been going on for the past 8 or 9 months, and they had finally kissed 2 weeks ago.
I asked her to break it off with him and try to work things out with me. She replied that she didn't want to hurt the one she loved, and she didn't love me anymore, so she was leaving me, not him.
I went ahead and called him at that point, and told him that I was aware of the affair, and knew that she loved him. I said that I was not judging him, but what he did was wrong. Then I told him that I wished them luck together. He is ex-military, and he told me that that was a very manly thing to say. What a moron. My wife then got on the phome and told him that she loved him, right in front of me, and said she would see him later.
She was unrepentant, mean, cold and a real B.
She is leaving anyway, so I had no choice but to let her go. I am very sad because I love my wife very much...at leas I love the person she used to be. If she has such a low opinion of me to do that kind of thing, I think I'm better off without her. I'm filing for divorce tomorrow.
I'm still pretty sad though. I honestly believe that she married me for the immigration status, and since we've been married for over 2 years, she's assured of that status now.
