Before having a baby together, I think you need to live together again and have a conventional marriage. The one you describe sounds like a friendship with perks. You probably can little imagine the stress having a baby puts on a relationship and how it is much more preferable to work as a team to raise a child...and that means living together. If I was your H, there is not a chance in h@ll that I would entertain the possibility of having a baby that I can only have visitation with. It's my opinion that unless you are dedicated to giving it the best possible home, with both parents, that it isn't the time to have one. I'd give the same advice to two people that are just dating.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
