I am in a situ where i just dont talk to many people about it becuase I know that most of my friends and family would say, dont let him walk all over you, stand your ground, he is having his cake and eating it etc etc. But the one thing I do know is that forcing him into making a decision is NOT the right thing to do. I have been divorce busting now on and off for 2 years, and one thing I know about my H is if I or anyone puts pressure on him or tries to influence him into making a decision - he backs off big time.....
Thats why deep down I do beleive he is being sincere, but he has to beleive 100% in himself that if he did comit to me again he would be able to be 100% faithful, which at the moment I dont think he can... I dont think he has got it out of his system... I no he does not want to lose me completely but at the same time he does not want to make promised to me he knows he may not be able to keep... He has told me that he knows he put me through hell and he would never do that again, which is one of the reasons he is scared and wants to take his time..
BUT from now on this has to be about me!! I have made my decision to chill out and just see how things go with my H, but in the meantime I will prioritise in looking after myself and my little daughter and enjoying life and being happy on our own... Then whatever develops with my H will be a bonus.
