thanks for your comments, I understand your thougths and views on my situation. Its hard becuase you only read my side of the story, so yes it does sound very much like he is 'using' me and wants his cake and eat it...
But, what do you do when he has made it quite clear that he thinks there is sumthing between us that he thinks could be worked on BUT he is just not ready to take full plunge yet?? I cant make him give up everything and start trying... He has to do it in his own time. This is where we went wrong last time, i put pressure on him and he started trying but reluctantly and it didnot work.
I am torn between people telling me I am being a mug and being used and really beleiving I am doing the right thing with my H..
I do think he has alot of issues he does need to sort out still, bit I also know that if he came home under pressure if would never work...
At the moment, we are getting on better than we have done in ages, so I am tempted to say if its working, why change it??
My problem is patience! I want changes to happen now, but I no they will not. They will take time.. Dbusting covers the issue in the book when a partner will not give up a OW so that is why I am trying to give him time but also get on with my own life as well.
Moderator - any views on this at all as I am struggling with this??
