Yeah I understand what you are saying because I think the same myself somtimes. We have never discussed or approached the D subject. He came last night and stopped the night, and we have good time. We also spent day together which was fine. When he went tonight to see his OW he was like making excuses. He left about 6pm, and said to me ' if I go over now to see OW rather than later then i got good excuse to leave her earlier tomorrow and get back to take you out to lunch!!
Its really hard to work out exactly what is going through his head at moment. Sometimes i think he wants his cake and eat it, sometimes I think he is scared and confused.
I said to him today,' what exactly are we doing' He reply was ' we are testing the water to see if we can get on and if there is a chance we could try again.'
So I said to him ' well why dont we stop messing about and start trying properly then'.
He said ' dont put pressure on me, thats what I cant stand' !!! It will happen when the times right.
He also said he was quite happy with things the way they are at the moment!!
I dont know??? I am just so confused as to what to do for the best at the moment.
The time me and H spend together is getting more and more and we have good times when we are together. I can definitely see progress in this area. BUT I cannot see him committing to me at the moment. He seems to want to work on US but at the same time he also wants to keep OW going as well.
