Frank you really have been the guiding light for many of us. (Not the soap on TV!) Your words have enlightened many of us especially me. I have been experiencing many of the same feelings you have. My W is in a very intense program becoming a Paramedic. It is actually a 4yr degree up here in Canada. I have been making sacrifices personally and financially to ensure she completes this program. People that I know who have an idea of what is happening in our R can't believe that I still will give so much to my W to complete this program! I know it is because I truly love my W unconditionally, and that will never change. It is amazing over the last few days I have a seen a change in my W attitude toward me because despite all the crap she is doing with the OM I still have stood by her to support her in her goals of doing well in her program. She even said the other day she can't believe that I am still supporting her! It makes me feel good, but it stil makes me wonder if she truly appreciates it. Regardless of what happens I will do what I can to help her complete her program because it is something I WANT TO DO FOR HER! Frank you have come so far and deserve some time to yourself to recharge your batteries! Good luck and we are here for you!
Tim
my story http://www.divorcebusting.com/ubbthreads/showflat.php?Cat=&Number=1049617&page=&view=&sb=5&o=&fpart=1&vc=1
