Well this morning W told me she was going to clean the bathroom in the master bedroom for me since she couldn't pay all her share of the house expenses this month. I said that was great and I appreciated it. She asked me if there was anything else she could do for me and I said in a sly voice 'Oh, I could think of something...' then started to walk away.
SO she said 'I don't think we should have sex if that's what you're thinking'. I know I felt the other day like I needed it but it's a boundary I don't think we should cross. We'de just be using each other..
Me: Would we? When we have these great hugs because we need to feel someone are we using each other then?
W: Well, it would be awkward if we started dating... I mean I've already crossed that boundary once and I think that will be all you think about if we do it.
Me; In our last counseling I told you I don't care any more about that, or anything else you do. And I don't have any dating plans.
W: So you're never going to date any women?
Me: I don't care right now. I don't need that kind of problem in my life. I feel ok with you though.
W: Well, it doesn't seem like a good idea.
Me: We haven't crossed the 'dating' bridge yet so I'm not going to concern myself. Anyway, I'm in a lot better shape now than I was before...
W: So you're wondering how you've improved then...
Me: It would be interesting to see. Oh well. I'm going upstairs now...
W: Well I'm not going to come up and do it with you I'm busy cleaning. (interesting shift)
Me: Ok, have fun working.
I then left. It's interesting how it was 'imposssible' to 'well I am not going to do it with you right now'. She is very resistant to it because it may mean she might like it, and make a commitment to me and not be able to 'date'.
Or she really does want to stay 'free' and disconnected. Dont' really know.
