Quote: W: I don't know. After all we've been through, you think you would want to? We'd just be using each other to get off. But my body sure needs it and it would relieve my tension.
My man, I'm curious; why did you not do her? I mean you love her, you want her, and she wuz primed! What's the deal? .....inquiring minds want 2 know.
In my sitch, my W (XWAW) - during our emotional separation - use to communicate similar things whenever "she was in need" e.g., "women have needs, too", "if we ML, I don't want you to confuse sex with love", "I want to ML w/ you, but do not want to hurt you", etc. Though at first, these communications hurt me (self-inflicted, "all in my mind"- type of pain, 'mind you), they didn't hurt me enough to not accept her offers. The fact was that she was still physically attracted to me. And this knowledge boosted my confidence. Besides, we built on those "exclusively" physical (yeah right!) interactions.
I learned that though you should always listen to what your W says, you should pay more attention to what she does (non-verbal communication). The fact is that your W expressed to you that she wanted you! And if she's going to later repeat her typical, (what I refer to as) DBing hangover symptoms anyway, e.g., regret, remorse, confusion, etc., then you might as well take these "morsels" when they're given to you.
