I've been doing some looking into 'Emotional Predators'. My Counselor believes that OM is an Emotional Predator. I found this interesting stuff. You may find the OM or OW in these descriptions...
This web page has some interesting descriptions of various types of predators: Predators
From "How to Avoid a Dangerous Man before you get involved" by Sandra L. Brown
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Red Alert Behavioral Checklist
The emotional predator:
has a natural instinct for sensing vulnarable or "sensitive" women
senses women with low self esteem
senses women who want or require relationships in order to feel needed or fulfilled
senses women who are bored, lonely, or needy
senses women who are on the rebound from having been recently dumped, divorced, emotionally ignored, or wounded
senses women's body and eye language
listens closely to what a woman says in order to pick up clues he can use in later conversations
senses unfulfilled physical intimacy needs and sexual needs
creates a sense of fun and mystique to draw you in
is smooth and seems to have all the right lines and insights into you
comes on fast and strong and sweeps you off your feet
is overly interested in every detail of your life
wants to move in together or get married quickly
implies that he "knows" you well before he has spent enough time to really get to know you
pushes you to quickly disclose a lot about yourself to him
tries to fulfill your physical, financial, or emotional needs
seeks to fill roles in your life, such as advisor, father figure, spiritual leader, mentor
is overly helpful, comforting and understanding
has the exact same interests, values, hobbies, etc that you do
is a chameleon who can be all things to all people
