You said your wife was one of those persons who needed your energy to help pull them thru their journey. This can be a good thing if it is balanced in a relationship and a bad thing - for both - if not. I know as one who came together with my husband as the quiet, nurturing element balancing out his forceful forward-moving energies; we felt that we would carry each other far in this yin/yang state. After awhile, though, we were unable to maintain this balance. He was unable to take, only give and (forcefully) be a caretaker and I adapted, losing myself and becoming dependent on him, forgetting my need to take ultimate responsibility for myself. Inevitably, he became resentful of me. This is not to say this is your situation at all.
This is so like us! She was the 'love and nurturing' and I was the 'stability and forward moving'. When I lost my power because I had given too much of me away, she had no way to bring it back. And besides being depressed and drinking I'd also become resentful of her for that, for her weakness. She says she wanted to leave for a few years but it wasn't until she found OM that she decided she had enough and life could be better for her somewhere else. She had no plan, no Idea how she would support herself, Just her desire to 'be happy' and she saw OM as a way to achieve that emotionally right now.
Quote: It is only another example of how imbalances can eat away at a marriage and individuals both. By working with every fibre of your being to rebalance yourself and by reaching out, being willing to ask for what you need to receive, you are setting a formidible example for all of us here. May you receive 10-fold all that you are giving into the world, as you are in need at this time and we are with you.
I am working hard to rebalance amidst all this hurt. It often freezes me and I can't do anything at all. A far cry from a guy who could visualize and construct complex computer networks in my sleep.
