Quote: Please explain what you mean by 'terribly confused'? She's "Happy" and she "deserves to be happy". How is that confusing? She has found what she says she wants. And she did say 'it was too late' a couple weeks ago wen we talked about my changes. So, what's the confusion? Why the crying? She doesn't think ANYTHING she is doing is wrong.
I'd bet you she cries because of the state of her family and her state of mind and the knowledge that she is the reason NOW that all is not well. She pulls you closer then pushes you away. That's how I know she is confused. That is also why she cries. The problems that you had before put her in a place where she was forced to think that she would have to leave the marriage to be happy. How long was she preparing to do that before you straightened up? You don't really know but I know the mental process is long. So she has prepared herself for divorce. Then WHAM! You get it together. And like never before, too! But how does she now back up and retrain herself???? Why should she???This is what she's waited for for years and it finally happens NOW? Now that she is ready to LEAVE....How dare you straighten up NOW, Frank!
She is on a path that leaves her no other choice but to walk it to the end. There is no doubt about that - and she may even lose you in the process but I would bet that if she goes through with her plan, she will STILL not be happy. I pretty much guarantee it. "Happy" is what she wanted for years and it never happened til she was ready to fly. WHAT? THAT'S NOT FAIR AT ALL!! So she can't trust it yet. She's worked too hard, yes, if only mentally, and the woman she made her mind up to become can't yet be merged with the woman she always was and still is, deep down.
But that is just my opinion. I certainly might be wrong and way off base. Forgive me if that is the case. All WAW's are NOT the same, I realize that. But some of the feelings are.
