Quote: Yes, that's probably part of it. It can also be because at that time (before), she could not leave (physically, mentally OR emotionally) and it took her a lot of "work" to get prepared to do just that. Now you're exhibiting all these changes and you have become the man she wanted you to be but for her, it was 'too late' so now she is really just terribly confused.
Please explain what you mean by 'terribly confused'? She's "Happy" and she "deserves to be happy". How is that confusing? She has found what she says she wants. And she did say 'it was too late' a couple weeks ago wen we talked about my changes. So, what's the confusion? Why the crying? She doesn't think ANYTHING she is doing is wrong. Apparently her MOM does. Her Dad does. Most family, and 'sane' friends do.
As an aside, I talked to her 'stepmom' today. She 'knows' about all the "terrible things" I did, she says (with great anger) "That doesn't give her the right to just leave the marriage". We saw you guys all the time and you'd think the kids and her would show symptoms of some kind of emotional abuse - there wasn't any. She should have REALLY worked on it. If nobody in the FAMILY knew she was unhappy then she must not have been 'suffering' that much. And, we know you. Whatever your problems were, she has no right to run away without a SERIOUS fight to save her marriage. she said "A REAL wife would not do that."
She will NOT let me take all the blame. No matter how much I blame myself. I guess I'm kind of lucky to have that support.
