Frank- I have checked your stich from time to time, but I think that this is the first time that I have posted to you, so to start, sorry that you are here at all. second, sorry for your dispair. I understand that you can see favor in your stich over another's. beyond that your emotions are yours, you have control over you and nobody else. I just want to make one point for you.
Quote: I need to put all my DB'ing on HOLD, and take care of me.
Little mistake there. what you need to do is take care of you and that IS DBing.
Logic doesn't help, emotions suck sometimes, its up to you whether you jump into the legal arena with all of this, but taking care of you, detaching, letting go that is what DB is all about.
