I wish I only knew what emotional void he is filling for her. I mean, I obviously wasn't the greatest H in the world, in fact I was pretty bad at validating her feelings for the most part. So maybe that's the void...I don't know.
Have you asked her? I know I wish I knew as well about my W's OM and what he was doing for her. I guess in my case I am afraid to know. You are at a point where these kinds of convos may be appropriate. You might be surprised, she may actually answer the question but first of all, you need to stop being cold to her, i.e. no more comments.
