Anything to help one another get thru the day.....
What you said about your wife SAYING that she KNEW what she was doing is wrong is the strongest most direct example I've seen yet about an A being like a drug!!! If only we could think of it like crack it would be easier. It really is that impersonal in that it's not about love but about filling some void, some need (and that ain't love!). So her drug is the EA..she's not feeling able to control it, knowing it's wrong...yet...being unable to kick the habit just yet. BUT she loves you! And said it! This is great! She may tuck her head back into the tunnel - and unfortunately leaving you hurting for a time - but there is hope! Remember, DB-ing protects YOU, too. You need that kind of detachment that comes from DBing (don't we all) to help shield yourself while being able to love your W at the same time.
Thanks for thinking of my sitch, too. I just feel like I can't compete with his fantasy world and need to be out of his way or he will continue to steam roll over me in his fight for freedom. It's hard to see others on this site that actually have S's who are 'peaking' out of MLC. My H and I have only just begun...
Ok...I've got to get back to work (piles of it!)...I'll be checking in later, too!
