She refuses to think she is doing anything wrong (apparently, in her mind an affair means only full blown out sexual affair), and basically can't understand why I'm so up in arms about the whole ordeal. Okay, can I get a WTF??
Yet another thing our W's have in common. Beneath all the other crap she is saying/doing, is the lack of understanding about why I am so upset over her having "friends" now. Never mind the fact that she told me she was "seeing" someone a month ago. She feels that since she told me it was not physical, I am somehow NOT GIVING HER credit when I think she's having an affair. She is totally convinced that she is doing nothing wrong and that I'm this paranoid nut-job upset over nothing. Sure, the lies, secrecy, vague plans, etc, they are all to protect me from myself. Yea. Ok. My W leaves a divorce lawyer's card on our kitchen counter and when I ask her about it, somehow I'm the a-hole. How does that work again? I'm an a-hole for finding out you're talking to a D lawyer? Sorry for the rant, but you really hit on a sore spot with me. Yes, we're all told to expect them to blame us for everything, including the A but damnit it still pisses me off!
