Yes, she absolutely did tell me to cut off the affair. She didn't walk away, I did, for a weekend. After that, we both kind of resumed our lives. To say the least, she was very wary of all my activities.
I guess that is what I'm struggling with here. My W is blatantly involved in an EA, in fact I just had a major blowout here because I found out that she was still talking to OM....in fact, she was on the phone with him just awhile ago. She refuses to think she is doing anything wrong (apparently, in her mind an affair means only full blown out sexual affair), and basically can't understand why I'm so up in arms about the whole ordeal. Okay, can I get a WTF?? Really, I'm at a turning point, because this is getting out of hand. My emotions don't mean squat to her at this point. She doesn't want to talk about it, etc...and this is after all the reassurances?
Really, at this point I have very little options. She lives here and I live here. Neither of us has anywhere to go....she won't leave and I'm sure as heck not leaving. Financially, we can't afford it. She works nights, I work days. So, again, what am I supposed to do?
Sorry Kaly, this goes way beyond the scope of your question, I'm just journaling now :-)
"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu
