Quote: I really understand what you are feeling and why it's so hard to figure this out. Do you continue to DB and detach in the face of what looks like more of the same from her, or do you switch tactics, believing in her renewed commitment to you?
That's my struggle as well. I sent her an e-mail laying out some things, basically telling her that I am not bitter or angry and I do understand her feelings and emotions. I don't blame her because she is under a lot of strain and stress and these powerful emotions. But, I also have boundaries. I let me emotions get caught up in the expecations and that I can no longer do that. I have to assume that she is not emotionally in this M and as a result, I can't continue to offer emotional support. She has my full love and support, but something in this relationship has to change until she can actually prove to me that this is where she wants to be.
I don't know, maybe its too much....I hope not. I really hope she does come to her senses, but in the meantime, I can't get caught up in expectations and I can't keep whistling past the graveyard, pretending she's not leaning on him.
What a day.
"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu
