but I'm calmer. Maybe because I'm realizing the those expectations she built up are a complete sham?
Ok, another different approach. If I remember correctly, your W wrote those letters AFTER you confronted her and the OM, right? So is it possible that you coerced her into coming back but she never really decided to? That's what we're told will happen if we try to strong arm the situation, right? They may come back but they're still partially back "there". I don't really have an answer if that is the case. It seems like you are perfectly right in taking her for her word and that those "expectations" you have based on what she said, should count for something. I get that totally. I don't know where to tell you to go now. The most logical thing would seem to be a heart to heart with her explaining what you need and feel and asking her to do the same. I really understand what you are feeling and why it's so hard to figure this out. Do you continue to DB and detach in the face of what looks like more of the same from her, or do you switch tactics, believing in her renewed commitment to you? Anyone else?
