Quote: Rob, the most important thing to realize now, as far as I can see, is that you major issue is that she is not living up to your expectations of her right now. Do you see a problem with that?
Honestly, I guess not. They are my expecatations, but they were based on things she said, etc. Look, I guess she just needs to realize that she cannot rely upon my emotional support and whatever emotional support she is getting from OM. Right now, I'm really confused about what to do. I do understand the feelings, emotions, etc. But I just keep getting caught up in the whirlwind. She says something and does something else. Her words should at least account for something. I feel that the only way I can even get some of my dignity back here is to emotionally detach as much as possible, but when she tells me ILY all the time, etc. its pretty hard to do that. If she wouldn't build up my expectations, then maybe I wouldn't have any , you know. I'm still mulling all this over. One thing I do know, I am not throwing in the towel. Just trying to plan my next move. Its strange, yesterday, I was ready to go to war over little things..today I know a little bit more (like the calling card she kept hidden away so she could call him w/o me knowing it....250 minutes activated last week, 45 mintues left), but I'm calmer. Maybe because I'm realizing the those expectations she built up are a complete sham?
"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu
