Yes, that was VERY eye-opening and brave of you to write about your sitch honestly from the WAS's point of view. Now...from the other side...
What do you think your situation would have been had you continued to work in the same place as the OW? Do you really think you could have gone back to your W completely with her still around? Please give your true opinion about this.
My H is still has daily contact with OW and sees nothing wrong (cake-eating in EA form , if not PA). Totally unrepentent. Totally uninterested in anything but separation with me until I change?!. He knows I still love him, although I have made it clear that I have needed to get out of his line of trajectory given his choices (said this calmly, without accusation..."you have a right to live your life any way you choose. Right now, I need to get out of your line of trajectory because your choices are not good for me"). His reaction? He didn't understand why I had to leave. Thought being in the house with him until we separate would be fine??!! After I came back (could only afford 2 days in a hotel), he said he was sad at first, but adjusted and thought it ok.(??!!!))It's almost as if he's both TOTALLY detached AND setting me up and testing me...forcing me to be the one to leave him so he can blame me, be free of obligation, and confirm the fact that he's not worthwhile - he's bad and was left again - WTF!!!??? He is so out of touch with his emotions, it's hard to talk with him. You have been so forthwright in this forum...were you a 'closed book' to your wife like my H is?
