Well, that was eye opening. I would love to say it gives me hope, but it really doesn't that much. Much like someone else recently who posted a similar account of being a WAS, it scares me. The addiction factor is the worst part. I guess that's where all your feelings come from these days. You've been there and you fear your W is experiencing that same pull. Well, I would add a little something to my advice to you. If you cannot find a way to detach otherwise, maybe realize that you owe her some time to work this out since you obviously took some time to work yours out. I am not saying tit-for-tat, just maybe you could realize that more than most of us, you KNOW there could be a positive outcome, even if you have to suffer through a little more of the process. Or, is it that you feel that you only did what was right when you were pressured to? I know we have been through this, but it does bring back that question of DB vs Ultimatum again. Are you afraid that since pressure worked on you, and you are not TRYING to pressure her, that she may walk?
