Indeed! I've been thinking about that for a good part of the day. My W, despite all this, is kind and loving and I know when she sees me in pain it then becomes a task for her to fix-it. I must evaluate my moods and make adjustments accrodingly!
"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu