GH, Thank you! Yes, everything you have said makes perfect sense and its a little of me needing to practice what I preach. I can imagine that my W would say "you STILL doing it." I am at a crucial point and I need to stay the course...I really believe that she does recognize that there have been changes, I just need to make sure, for myself and for her, that they are real.
Thank you for the reality check GH. I feel much better than I did an hour ago!
"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu